Category: Session 3 – Primary Years

Your Needs Profile

  1. If you do not have a hardcopy, open the Glasser’s Primary Needs Inventory from your computer and make a copy for yourself so you can type on it. 
  2. Fill out the inventory by circling the numbers that best represent you.  
  3. Score your inventory to see which need may be the highest priority for you. Add the total value of numbers for each section (see back of inventory for directions) 
  4. If time remains, go ahead and fill out the circle diagram and the writing prompt, Write down some of the things in your life that fulfill that need.

Glasser Needs Summary Page

Explore Your Own Needs

Please remember that the Glasser Needs inventory is only useful as A BRIDGE TO UNDERSTANDING our children  and ourselves. It is not meant to classify you. Each human is far too complex and unique for that. That being said, it can be very powerful for increasing awareness of our own ways of handling stress and the stress we might invite from others.  

After filling out the Glasser Needs inventory on yourself, refer to the Glasser Needs’ Summary page. Take a look at “what you do when you are stressed” and see if you can come to any insights  that are helpful.  I find this section particularly helpful in understanding how my loved ones respond to stress too!

Perception Modification Chart

What is the faulty belief behind the misbehavior? This perception modification chart gives us a glimpse into the possible faulty perceptions (and thus beliefs) that a child may have formed about him or herself, others and the world. The misbehavior is code for what the child really wants. Once we break the code, we can do so much to change their faulty beliefs into the positive beliefs that all healthy, happy and contributing children have about themselves, others and the world around them.

Mistaken Goal Chart

Use this Mistaken Goal Chart (from Positive Discipline) to break the code of your child’s misbehavior! Follow the “Break the Code” steps below:

Once you have discovered your child’s mistaken goal, refer to these Encouraging Strategies for loads of tips and ideas on how to respond to your child’s misbehavior!

Session 3 – Homework & Reading Assignments

  1. Read Positive Discipline Chapter 4
  2. Complete Chp. 4 Study Guide  (found in your Study Guide tab of your course binder). 
  1. Break the Code! 

The next time your child misbehaves, tune in to how you were feeling. Look at the mistaken goal chart (later, when you are calm) and see if you can identify the mistaken goal. Try one of the encouraging responses that matches the mistaken goal you have identified

4. Follow the journal prompt on the Homework Session 3 page to deepen your experience.